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Happiest People in the World Again

I am a little late on this news but this March the UN’s “World Happiness Report 2016 Update” came out and had the Danes back as the number one most happy people in the World. For a few years Denmark was behind a two other countries but here we are…the happiest again!

So what makes the Danes so happy and how do you become Happy as a Dane? I am currently working on a guideline to be posted here on this blog to help you and me become a little more like a happy Dane every day.

 

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Summer at Tisvildeleje Strand, Denmark. The beach is right there to the left and Tisvildeleje downtown is further down the road. I can’t really think of a happier place:)

 

Nougat Marzipan Easter Eggs

 

These Easter eggs are a Danish classic. You can buy them everywhere in Denmark at Easter time and I whenever Easter comes I start craving them. So fortunately I just discovered that they are super easy to make!

You need a roll of marzipan and half a roll of soft nougat – preferably from Denmark but maybe it can be found online… Then you cut both nougat and marzipan each into twelve pieces, put a ball shaped nougat piece into each slice of marzipan and roll it into a ball and then make it egg shaped. Dip them in melted dark chocolate. I decorated with licorice powder and dried raspberry powder but you don’t have to use this. Try to find pure marzipan without too much added sugar. Let it cool and enjoy!

 

Trip to Cape Cod

 

It almost looks like a Danish beach – but it is not! It is South Yarmouth Beach on Cape Cod where we went to visit my in-laws last week. The kids insisted on bringing sand toys to the beach. They just couldn’t imagine going to the beach without shovels and buckets and it took us a while to convince my daughter not to bring her swimsuit… They built castles without caring about chilly winds, sand everywhere (like inside the diaper!) and whatever we grown-ups like to care about. We even found a beach with a playground where children can swing while overlooking the beautiful sea! And for me and my Danish mother-in-law it was so refreshing to see the ocean again.

I am not sure why but I found many glimpses of Denmark in Cope Cod – probably because of the cooler weather and the nearness of the water everywhere you go. So refreshing and free relaxation for the mind.

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Shells! My daughter collected two bags of pretty shells for her jewelry collection.

 

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Cranberry field in Yarmouth, Cape Cod, March 2016

Right now the cranberry fields are a purplish red color. So beautiful and so Cape Cod!

Heather, heather, heather! I just can’t get enough of heather! I found heather many places in Cape Cod – also in my in-laws backyard. This is the first time I have seen heather on the North American East Coast. For some reason heather blooms late in the Winter in Cape Cod – in Denmark it blooms in the late Summer. Seeing heather again sent my mind right back to the West Coast of Jutland, Denmark, where purple heather covers wide hilly areas near the sea. There are also beautiful forest areas with heather near the beaches of North Sealand where I spent many of my childhood summers. Amazing how a plant can carry so much meaning!

Danish Children’s Clothes

Let me just say it right away – I LOVE Danish children’s clothes!! The designs are so cool and cute and it is practical at the same time. And I just discovered a web shop that sells almost all of my favorite Danish children’s clothing brands worldwide!

Copenhagenstyles.com

Check out the Smafolk and Katvig brands which are my personal favorites with fun prints. Or Melton which offers the cutest hats and mittens in a wool blend that makes them soft and warm at the same time! I love how Danish children’s clothes not only looks good but is designed for comfort and play and for being outside in all kinds of weather.

Copenhagenstyles.com also sells the famous Flensted mobiles and toys for babies and kids.

bObles is a great brand producing toys to develop motor skills and are highly appealing to kids! For some reason the foam material is very attractive to them and when my kids’ friends come over to our house they always want to play with our bObles toys. They look so simple but kids come up with all sorts of entertaining ways to move around with them. The bObles elephant is very popular in Denmark. We have it and it serves as a rocking horse, climber, backrest for kids, foot stool and even coffee table for the adults!

I am definitely going to try out Copenhagenstyles.com – I can see they have great sales…

More photos with cute Danish baby/toddler clothes coming up once I have this week’s laundry done…:)

Danish Coziness

There is one word you will hear over and over again in Denmark: “Hygge”. It is hard to translate correctly because it is a uniquely Danish term but “coziness” or “togetherness” is the best I can translate it. It is at the core of Danish culture to have a good and cozy time together. This could also be part of the reason why Danes are so happy. They take the time to just “be” together.

This leads me to another point. I think Danish parents generally speaking are good at taking their time to “be” with their children. Time to just “hygge”/be cozy and relax together. Not that they don’t live busy lives like everybody else but I guess it is a question of priority. Hmmm… personally I find it hard to drop what I am doing to listen and “be” with my children. It is sad to admit but my head is constantly wrapped around practical stuff and to-do lists – so how do I find time to just sit down and be cozy/”hygge” with my children?

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Cozy time/”hygge” with my daughter

I remember when I asked one of my friends in Denmark – a young mom of three – if her children never threw tantrums. She looked a bit mystified at me and really had to search her mind before she answered that sometimes one of them would be a little sad after daycare but then she would just sit and cuddle and talk with her and it helped. But the kind of tantrums I am used to with my toddler did not sound familiar to her…

After reading “The Danish Way of Parenting” I have tried to prioritize togetherness and coziness over everyday tasks and it has immediately brought us closer. My daughter is less likely to throw a tantrum on me if we have had some “bonding” time of just us being cozy together.

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My daughter made her and her brother’s rabbit lamps kiss each other after we had a cozy Valentine’s weekend. They are called Rice DK color changing Rabbit LED lamps

Maybe it is exactly what “hygge” does to the Danes. They “hygger”/are cozy over coffee and cake or with a nice home-cooked meal with friends and family. They relax and enjoy the time together and talk about whatever comes up. Problems and conflicts are put aside during “hygge” and I think this produces close social bonds which are really important for our well-being (you can read more about this in “The Danish Way of Parenting”).

So the answer to my question about how Danes get time to connect and “hygge” with their children must be that they prioritize it really high and know that it will make everyone feel happier. In the long run this prevents tantrums because everyone feel happy and secure in their home and know that they will be listened to and that there is room for their needs and emotions.

And the same goes for adults. We are also happier when people around us take their time to listen and be with us. It is just a lot easier to see the effects of “hygge”/coziness on children because they haven’t learned how to hide their emotions, yet…

 

Parenting the Happiest Children

I just read “The Danish Way of Parenting”. I loved it and finished it in a few days! This is something that never happens when you have two small kids. It was that good and it was that interesting to me. It is written by American author, Jessica Alexander who is married to a Dane and by a recognized Danish psychotherapist, Iben Sandahl. They claim that the reason why the Danes have been voted as one of the happiest people in the world since 1973 is their way of bringing up their children. Based on years of research the authors discovered the special Danish way.

The book clearly lays out this method of bringing up some of the happiest children in the world. I don’t want to reveal too much but strongly encourage everyone with children or planning to have children or just anyone wanting more harmonic family get togethers to read this book! You don’t have to be a Dane to learn from what has proven to work well on Danish children. Anyone can take some of these postitive changes with them and try to practice them. The authors write that just adopting some of these new “settings” will improve your reactions when you are pressured and stressed as a parent. Not only does the book give you some methods to use as a parent but also a guide on how to change your own cultural perspective and the default settings we return to in stressful situations.

I was so happy and relieved to have my cultural background reenforced with the help of this book. As an immigrant it is easy to forget some of my cultural background and of course it strengthens me in my own view on upbringing that it has cultivated some of the most resilient and happy people in the world!

When I am in Denmark I do notice how children rarely get tantrums and generally seem well adapted and calm. Later in life, Danes are also often more resilient and better at coping with life’s stresses and staying positive. But this is all much better described in “The Danish Way of Parenting”. You can read a lot about the Danish way of parenting on their website thedanishway.com or buy their book electronically or in a paper copy.

All I can say is that I have started being a more “Danish” parent after reading this book and I have immediately seen results! Not as many meltdowns as usual, our children play better together, and my 4-year old trusts me more – she even shared her Valentines candy with me! – it is like our family becomes more of a team when I really try to be as “Danish” a parent I can be…

 

Danish Homes – Coziness and Style

 

 

Danish homes are where “hygge” or “coziness” originates from. Maybe it is the long dark winters that necessitate these homes be full of atmosphere, personality and style. The short winter days call for extra “hygge”, more tea candles, more hot chocolate – and wine – and more time spent together with the family in the home.

While there is almost always a big tv in the living room, a coffee table takes center stage. Around the coffee table people have coffee and cake together with friends and family while seated in comfy chairs or a couch. Guests are almost always invited into the living room. For some reason this doesn’t seem to be the case in the U.S. where the formal dining room or the kitchen island/table are the primary places for socializing.

I think it says a lot about Danish culture that we like to socialize around a coffee table. We just like to “hygge” with coffee and cake and sit down and relax together. Americans seem to be more “on the go” and ready to move on to the next thing. For example, Americans rarely sit down for longer periods of time at parties – they prefer to move around and stand up and talk with everybody whereas Danes sit in the same chair next to the same people for maybe up to four hours at dinner parties which can honestly be pretty boring…

Danes also spend a lot more time in their homes than Americans. American culture seems to be a lot about going out. In Denmark most people cook their own food and love to share it with good friends and family (plus it is really expensive to go out in Denmark).

With all this time being spent inside the home it is nice to have something nice to look at. Many people are willing to spend money on good design. Less is more. Rather a few expensive pieces you truly love than shelves cluttered with less expensive stuff.

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This Kahler vase is a must-have in Denmark right now! Highly popular there

Almost all Danish homes are very white inside. I am not just referring to wall colors. Also cabinets, floors, porcelain, you name it! It seems like homes get more and more white every time I visit Denmark! This way the bright Scandinavian light from outside is also captured inside – mostly in the bright summers. If furniture isn’t white it is typically black or some neutral color in natural material.

A more recent trend is to bring nature – nature prints and natural materials – inside the home. The boundary between inside and outside is becoming more blurry. I see a lot of backyards where furniture that looks like it could be for the living room has been moved outside with pillows and blankets to take the chill off in the evenings.

Even the backyards are created for “hygge”. They are typically fenced in with hedges so they become an outdoor extension of the home. There are no front lawns. Its all private and cozy and not about how you appear to the neighbors as I find it to be the case a lot of places in the U.S.

 

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Handmade bags – inspired by Danish friend – made together with my mother. They are hanging on hooks/handles from Danish designer and ceramicist Anne Black

Danish Happiness

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In Denmark equality is highly valued. We also like to be alike, not to stand out too much from the crowd. There is not as much pressure to perform as in the US where I live now. I will explain how this affects childhood, culture and maybe even happiness…

If you go to Denmark you might be surprised to see that most Danes don’t walk around with a big pearly smile all the time! Danish happiness should probably be translated into “being content”. It is more of an inner feeling of being satisfied with life than a constant bubbly happiness. It is ok not to be happy all the time which might be the very reason why people actually feel happy! There is no pressure. More on this later…

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So, does the Danish happiness start already in childhood? I think so…

Danish children have a lot of time to play – time to be children. Free play is highly valued and seen as an important skill rather than time wasted. Not only does the relaxed attitude make children less stressed, and probably more happy, it also makes them smarter. It teaches them to use their imagination and to think independently.

Family time is also highly valued. Most families I know have dinner together where everybody talk about their day. Weekends are generally not overbooked with sports and other scheduled activities. At least it is nothing like what I experience in the US. There is time to just be together, relax and have “hygge” together. I believe this is part of the reason why Danes put so much time and effort into creating cozy homes – this is such an important base for the heart of Danish culture. This is where family “hygge” is. More about this on my Interior Design pages to come…

And then there is outdoor time… From infancy Danish children spend at least an hour outside every day. Babies sleep outside in prams that can keep them warm even in the coldest months. They can be left outside sleeping because Danish backyards are typically enclosed by a hedge. When the kids get older they spend an hour or more playing outside every day in all kinds of weather! Rain, frost, snow all just add to the fun! “There is no bad weather, only bad clothing!” as Danish adults like to say! Many studies have shown how time outside reduces stress and increases wellbeing.

In the recently published book “The Danish Way of Parenting” the two authors, Jessica Alexander and Iben Sandahl, investigate exactly this topic: what makes Danish children so happy? They claim that the key to Danish happiness is in the upbringing and uncover this special Danish secret to raising the happiest children in the world in their book! You can read more about the Danish way of parenting on the website for the book thedanishway.com

Try this Danish food blog

I found another Dane in the US who is posting Danish recipes on her blog mydanishkitchen.com

She has been doing this much longer than I have and her recipes look delicious and detailed with pictures of how to do it and advice on where to find these special Danish ingredients! Needless to say I am excited – and relieved! She is saving me lots of time trying to translate recipes into English!!

So if you are looking to do Danish cooking in America go to:

mydanishkitchen.com

There is a recipe for dark rye bread there that I can’t wait to try!!

Hot chocolate in the snow!

 

 

We had a snowstorm again and there are some extremely cold days ahead of us! Could there be a better excuse to indulge in comforting hot chocolate? My Danish mother-in-law, Kirsten, makes the best hot chocolate. It is very rich and has just the right amount of sugar. And, what’s even better, she has shared her recipe with me! Now, my kids ask for it all the time and I honestly feel very happy to fulfill this request… in fact I need it too!

So here it is…

Kirsten’s hot chocolate

Ingredients:

1/2 gallon whole milk

1/2 cup unsweetened cocoa powder

1/2 cup sugar

A little extra whole milk for the chocolate paste

 

How to make it:

In a medium sized pot heat the milk up to just below the boiling point (do not let it boil!)

In a bowl stir together the cocoa and sugar. Slowly add a little milk and stir it until it forms a thick paste

Add this paste to the hot milk

Serve with whipped cream on top